Continuing with the Principles list.
5. Living the principle of Self Responsibility – realising only I am responsible for what I accept and allow inside of me, my relationships and my outside world and so with this responsibility: only I have the power and ability to change that which I see is compromising who I am, what I live and how this affects others
I always wanted freedom and for that I was seeking knowledge, understanding, comprehension. There was never a point of tiredness which could stand in my way to investigate, learn and study what I wanted to be aware about and that is something, what was not given but it is always a decision to make about who I am.
The thing what has limited me within finding the power and ability I wanted to be able to change was denying and deliberately avoiding to take responsibility.
I had to find out the hard way that knowledge without practical application is literally useless, it’s just dead data until I do not start to apply it.
I always wanted to be free first, then to be able to apply this freedom and THEN, when I would become free to take responsibility but it works the other way around.
First, I take responsibility for what I accept and allow and then I apply practical knowledge.
I have grown up in a little village wherein things were not always easy and simple, when I was a kid I had to take care many things what seemed to be overwhelming, like taking care animals, gardening, I had to wake up early, travel to school, often walk kilometers to be able to learn computer science and my days were so busy that all I ever wanted is to have my free time, when nothing to do, when I am my own and it seemed like it never gets enough. I’ve became an adult and in a way I was split within – one part of me wanted to learn, know, explore, expand, understand about what is this all about, what is life, creation, how we came around, where are we going, what is behind the scenes, what is power, why people suffer – and I had another aspect, who always wanted to just get a least responsibility and be able to just fly around so to speak, to have no impact to the world, yet to just be able to enjoy not being dragged, chained, bound to anything and anyone.
I’ve came to the conclusion that freedom is lack of responsibility and with freedom one can gain awareness. I was wrong! The less responsibility I perceived I had – the less I was free, because I was bound to my idea and definition of freedom and I always noticed the pattern, the time-looping within myself that in fact I was not expanding anymore – there is this term: my life became recreational.
It is a term what people use to a certain type of drug-usage: to re-create the same experience over and over and over again.
I have accepted and allowed to create cycles within and as my beingness, my life, my relationship, my reality what I’ve defined first as my freedom, and then it always became my prison which then I had to break through and this fueled me to gain power and discipline myself to have the ability to change.
I’ve became the pattern over the previously mentioned pattern to gain and lose everything within cycles.
What the problem was that I did not want to be responsible for the consequences of my living, actions – but it always became obvious and that blocked my feeling of freedom, because how I could be free if I deliberately, indirectly participate within neglect or abuse.
I had my first salary and my pocket was full with dope and I had the taste of freedom having enough money to eat anything – that made me more high – I had no idea what would be more free than being able to eat whenever, wherever and whatever I want.
Then walking down the street and looking the hungry homeless I had this guilt – which did not really solve anything, but I’ve felt uncomfortable, even when I gave them some money – I wanted to make everything right but at the same time I was unable to do anything because I have almost sworn to avoid responsibility.
Then I’ve realized something: that in fact I am always responsible, regardless of I take, accept, embrace it or not.
That made me really uncertain – regardless of any spiritual/psychedelic/shamanic experiences I’ve exposed myself to – it was just never satisfying because the freedom I wanted, always just tasted but never had.
When found the Desteni principles as I am always equal and one with all what I accept and allow and in that every single human being is equally responsible for the current state of this earth – I realized that I’ve all missed the real meaning of responsibility, which is in fact the freedom I never could find before.
The freedom is to choose who I am and to live that according to my actions and consequences for my and others within the principle of give as would like to receive is self-responsibility.
That is to stand within this oneness and equality and standing up to all as equal as one as myself is responsibility – and within that there is no separation on assisting and supporting myself and others – because there is no difference, there is no separation.
This is the starting point of taking responsibility for what I am and what I accept within myself and what I do not accept – in terms of thoughts, feelings, emotions – only me can know and ensure that these are aligned with what is best for all including myself. Only I can be aware of a spiteful thought and it’s origin, the fear and only me can understand how and why I’ve ended up facing this and within that to dare to commit myself to stop it and what it takes in practical reality to be able to stop all aspects of self-limitation, self-delusion, spite, fear.
Because what I accept within is equal and one with what I accept and allow in reality – that is who I am and that is with I accumulate to have an impact to others as well.
Even when I do not act has consequence, if I stand still, sit down, turn my back to things, events in this world – what I take responsibility for is all who I can be.
The interest is an ‘interesting’ word – well – what is my interest, what it’s limit – it’s completely up to me – it is only myself, my surrounding, which is called as ‘self-interest’ or can I expand my interest – my responsibility – my awareness – to all what is here?
It’s a decision, a realization, from which one has to find practical ways to become really aware and responsible.
If I have something within me which bothers me – occupies me, limits me – it is my responsibility to stop – and if I expand my awareness, if I let go the separation between me and the world around me, if extend my responsibility to what bothers me not only within, but also in the world.
What compromises to live our lives to reach our utmost potential also is my responsibility, all the limitations and atrocities, neglect, abuse, disregard is happening in this world is also my responsibility – not only mine, but my standing up to it is not being defined about how many of us stands up. I stand up because this is who I am and this is what compromises who I am as LIFE because any abuse I accept and allow – I can take responsibility for it or don’t but it’s still here, it’s still happening until it’s not stopped.
The justification and excuse in humans mind can be so extensive for the protection of their own self-defined ‘freedom’, just as I’ve defined previously my own freedom with the idea of ‘having the ability not wanting therefore choosing not to be responsible’.
By that experience one can find an experience of freedom, choice, even self-defining this to be one’s own responsibility but this is just a bubble.
And all bubble bursts.
Within principled living one can stand up to take responsibility step by step accumulating self-direction, self-trust and self-will to understand and change, to have a power to stop the compromises we accept to ourselves and each other in the name of avoiding Self-responsibility. This can give motivation, stability, consistency, direction and power to apply this responsibility to act in each moment according to what is best for all.
Self comes first within re-defining who I am and what I am responsible for. To be honest about who I am and what I am responsible for. Within investigating what I accept within me and why I allow it – I understand how it’s created and becoming aware of it I can find the potential to stop, to change.
As I realize what I am able to change within me, such as self-dishonesty, doubt, distractions, fear – I am becoming effective to deal with facts, to be able to express this change into my reality as equal as one.
I find it unacceptable that there is no such thing as unconditional life support for each and every single human being on this earth. If I could choose as responsible for existence, I would not sit still and accept and allow it happening.
This then takes to the investigation, research, study, expansion of how it could be changed – how to ensure that everyone is being taken care of? It takes to the systems, manifestations of what are directing the forces what grants some living and prevents others from accessing it? It is the currently accepted money system, within which we all participate, it is part of the human experience – and to understand where it originates from, the education, the law, the accepted ‘nature’ of humanity, then it can be changed. It requires the same amount of accumulation what was required to manifest it’s current state, just within the consideration of all.
To prove that I can change and express it into this world – I can share a living example of why and how to change myself and thus the world and that is why I am committing myself to walk the process of self-responsibility.