This is the continuation of the mind-tiredness patterns and expanding on impatience:
So I’ve been ‘practicing’ the moment of truth with myself so to speak, when at moments I need to wait yet I want to rush forward, currently pronouncing: with computers.
I mention it as moment of truth – in fact all moment is truth – but do we realize it?
When I am facing the point of friction because within my mind I want to rush while not being aligned with reality, kind of reality feels like drags me down, pulls back, or at least I judge it like that in my mind and thus judging it as bad and that creates the friction, energy, charge experience.
I have a cool example: I am using a browser add-on which allows me to set up my Stumbleupon account and be able to ‘Like’ a page simply with a keyboard shortcut – thus whatever page I find as cool Self-support, simply being able to add it to my Stumbleupon profile’s collection.
Sometimes Stumbleupon just marks it as ‘Liked’ and adds it immediately but sometimes it loads a pop-up for clarifying that the page is safe for work, can be tagged, give a quote and more info about it.
Then a pop-up page appears where this can be set up and it recently changed, thus it does not load almost immediately, but mostly in 2-3 seconds. Also after filling the form when I send it – it also takes 1-3 seconds to send it and I have to wait while if I click away it cancels sending thus I literally have to stop doing anything.
Initially when this change happened and I tried to add a page to my SU. collection, I’ve had this reaction like ‘holy shit, how long I have to wait’ – and after that I’ve wrote my previous blog post.
I mean I was so impatient, that I’ve felt like losing my life on needing to wait for 2 seconds! Because in my mind I’ve defined this as a simple gesture when added to a keyboard shortcut, that is why those shortcuts exist, right? I just press and the machine gets it and then I am already ‘on’ my next moment.
But obviously many things happen meanwhile as it’s in sync with my SU profile, checks the site itself, loads the form of extra questions, sends it, sends reply – being a programmer I KNOW that it takes a lot to manage something like this, especially in a multi-million-user system, like Stumbleupon.
So about this I almost started to form a judgement as a point of frustration – and then as writing all of these blog posts – I was able to slow down and stop for a moment and take a breath. It’s just that – and the page’s loaded.
And then I’ve realized what I’ve wrote about previously – it is always one breath to let it all go and be here, just be and remain here.
And we can be always one breath away from HERE, but sometimes to get here it’s obviously a process, cannot be forced or just be changed in one moment within behavior, chain-reactions of automated, self-defined judgements we feel as it is who we are, but within walking Process one moment another, in a sense it is Self Here already walking and that is the most profound thing a human can achieve: to change and direct oneself one breath at a time and walk through the self-created mind-limitations unconditionally.
Within this it’s to acknowledge that each written word about our mind, our relationship with our mind, behavior, the reactions, the realizations, the points needing to understand more, to see it before going into the same patterns, to stabilize, to slow down, to feel the presence – these all accumulate into a more aware, more present, more responsible human being to be able to direct ourselves to become.
I see that by writing this, I have the opportunity to forge this realization into practical ability to remain here and consistent within effective and present breathing to prevent myself going into reaction and at the same time to be able to intimately see what is the reason I am going into reaction and behind the layers there is always judgement, fear which is not necessary and in fact the opposite of real support for effective solution.
And the tendency within my mind to re-create and evolve existing patterns can still surprise me sometimes for instance when activating the Stumbleupon keyboard shortcut and coming this impatience reaction and within that automatically saying to myself: ‘patience mode, breath’ – and to realize it is already of a pattern which is in fact not absolute self-honesty, because there is still a reason, a condition, thus not self here is expressing but again: leaning on and hiding behind a condition, a rule, a judgement, separation, pattern and for that there is Self-honesty as a compass to then engage myself more within specifying the understanding for why I still do not remain here unconditionally, what is the reason, the memory, the self-definition that I still rely on more than absolute self-trust.
And for that the Desteni group, study material, the online courses and EQAFE lectures are the key support – to understand my creation and within that grasping the whole existence’s creation and thus to be able to effectively walk through the layers of the mind consciousness system, which is indeed vast, but not infinite, difficult, yet the process, as Self is: simplicity.
Thus I specify and continue walking through the layers of the mind – also I still walk the DIP Agreement Course which is really a cornerstone of my self-support currently, thus I really suggest to check it out and dare to walk.
So – with the Stumbleupon point I wanted to give a practical example, which I will continue to walk with Self-forgiveness along with another point which is emerging recently.
When and as I sit in front of a computer I see/realize/understand that I have allowed myself to automatize my behavior, give permission my mind to react to self-defined conditions with positive and negative energy and allowing to accumulate into physical feelings, moods, tension and accepting those and not questioning, stopping and changing myself about those because that leads to inconsistency, impatience, tiredness.
When and as I sit down in front of a computer I stop defining myself and my attitude according to the computer’s speed, capacity, responsiveness by realizing that I decide when to react to what within considering what supports me within self-honesty.
When and as I experience that the computer is slow, not responding, the browser, applications are not loading immediately, I breathe, I simply am here and remain undefined – I see/realize/understand that I am capable of deciding what I am going to do with the computer and once I decided it, it does not matter how slow it’s going to take – I remain here, breathing, consistent, unwavering meanwhile directing myself and the computer – and if meanwhile it would take that much time what would not be common sense to wait, then I act accordingly.
I forgive myself that I have not allowed myself to become aware the point of self-acceptance and self-defeat within that not being able to decide when it is too much time to wait or embrace the computer’s/internet’s speed while doing something with it but defining rules and conditions to when and what to react and defining the accumulation of these reactions as frustration and when it would come defining it that it is not cool and then defining my relationship with this not-cool-ness to THEN do something about it and focusing to these reactions completely losing perspective and forgetting the fact that in fact I am not directing myself, I am not present, not here and also that I allow these self-defined reactions to tell me when it is too much, when I am being frustrated, when I should do something practical about the fact that it takes too much time to wait for the computer.
This is important – because in fact within self-honest walking with self-forgiveness it is clear that I’ve decided to accept each and every single reaction to become automatic and thus allow myself to be compromised by actually creating reactions what are not supporting, diverting my attention from the actual solution and becoming unstable, creating friction and making myself tired.
And the solution can be sometimes just accept that 2 seconds to wait when clicking – or when working with videos I face extreme amount of lag sometimes as it does what I do – mostly complex multi-layered hd-animations – and finding more effective, smart, doable workflows without reacting with so much unnecessary frustrations.
Also the solution can be realized also that I would need a better computer, a faster internet, if that’s possible and then to consider how to manage that – another whole scenario can open up, for instance financial considerations – to find out how much it would cost to upgrade and if I can have money for that – is there any reactions in my mind on spending the required amount? If there is no enough money, how I could have such amount and what I would require to do and meanwhile be aware of what is the priority here.
I mean to actually do something in this reality it is mostly being able to work with limitations without being limited – which can also be judged as obstacles, something to resist to realize, face, overcome, solve – and also can be seen as challenge, fascination, like what I am going to face and realize about myself meanwhile walking this challenge, for instance within this to prioritize how to upgrade my computer and meanwhile not become frustrated but be able to be effective within it’s usage.
Anything can be possible and everything can be compromised in the mind but one thing is certain – if there are reactions automatically, frustration, energies, instability, then we are not the directive principle but accumulation of self-acceptance, self-defeat, self-dishonesty, thus to walk through those also an accumulation is required: of self-direction, self-stability and self-honesty.
I write this meanwhile the computer renders a frame of a 15 seconds of animation in ten seconds, thus for sure it takes time but meanwhile I walk through the conflicts of the mind and remain here, directive, stable.
I will continue with more specific self-correction, self-forgiveness and self-commitment on preventing to react with the mind but instead of remain here, directive and breathing.