Continuing with driving and self-forgiveness – at the moment I do not drive, my car is a bit far away for now, so it is definitely a great opportunity to review this aspect of mine.
Previous posts in this topic:
No particular topic this time, just going with the flow, even if it means repeating some self-forgiveness topics from previous posts.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to get frustrated when someone drives very slowly in the city in front of me, when there is no one in front of them because feeling like I am being blocked to go with the efficiency I got used to it and not realizing that I do not know what’s really going on with the person(s) in that car thus my frustration is only exerting my ignorance and inability to remain present with consideration of all and in fact becoming frustrated to my own powerlessness projected out so then I do not need to take responsibility or recognize that I can stop it if I really want, but deciding not to without knowing why.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel bad when I can’t go with the speed limit and people are behind me waiting for me to go faster or get out of the way because defining myself as responsible making others getting frustrated and angry and not realizing that I am projecting out to my self-judgement to others – regardless of the fact that if they are frustrated or angry or not – instead of realizing that if they indeed are frustrated or angry, that is their own process and self-honesty point to realize and take responsibility for.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel peer pressure to speed when everyone in the traffic in front of me and behind me as well going faster than I would like to or I can and within that pressure being tempted to give in and trying to go faster than it is comfortable and safe for me/my car(go)/my passengers.
- I forgive myself that I have not realized that it is the the minimum level of participating within driving in traffic is that I do not get agitated, frustrated, angry, being influenced by peer pressure in any way whatsoever and not realizing that it is my primary responsibility to always stop myself reacting and then to re-align with presence, clarity, discipline and practical common sense in application, no matter what, unconditionally, always.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to react in an erratic, unpredictable way on the road when driving among other vehicles on the road, as there is always a chance that someone else around me acts the same way and then it can become dangerous.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to ever become overconfident of my driving abilities, my current driving conditions in any given moment by the desire and hope for being defined as good, better than who and how I am, just to prove to myself or others that I am better than I am actually am in that given moment, thus risking safety – instead of always being open to admit that in that given moment I should stop driving to rest, to replenish, to wait for the bad road/traffic/weather conditions to be gone or to fix my car’s conditions to be safe again.
- I forgive myself that I have ever overriding a safety discipline while driving for any reason, especially emotional reactions, such as frustration, anger, impatience, annoyance; by realizing that one second irresponsible action can be enough for irreversible, fatal disaster.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to worry and fear from making mistakes during driving because of something I am not sure about, I am sure I am not good with, I am uncertain that it is acceptable for safe driving – instead of giving into the emotional reaction, spending time within this powerlessness state of emotional energetic mind-spiraling, I ACT IMMEDIATELY with consideration of my surroundings to safely stop and re-align, if needed, with the car, literally, pulling aside with indicator lights and taking responsibility for the fear – meaning if I fear of car would slip with this speed, I slow down extensively with considering other cars and safety – if I fear that someone, another car around me behaving dangerously, to pull aside, to let them go gently, if the car itself proves to be not in great condition, to significantly reduce speed, if needed with blinking emergency light without any self-judgment or self-definition as reminding myself to my initial and always primary commitment: safety is first, always.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to get into emotional, angry, mind-power possession, wherein I want to ‘teach’ others on the road, to give them lesson, because they do not behave the way I define as good, and within that becoming the bully, the aggressor, which I always wanted to avoid to encounter – instead of that, I live patience, consideration and responsibility.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to worry that if I become too confident on the road, or if I ever communicate with others ‘personally’ on the road during driving, that someone would become possessed and wanting to try to attack me or my car, so thus I always should be ready to protect myself, to have self-defensive tools/weapons at my disposal in all times in my car, just to be sure that if needed, I can protect myself, my car and my passengers – as I have seen on the internet, people becoming really aggressive and to realize that all I can do is to behave with consideration of all as giving as I would like to receive and if indeed, anytime I would encounter such possessed, the first responsibility of mine is to stay calm, collected and present to assess the situation to be able to apply common sense.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to worry about things during driving what I accept to keep thinking about, for instance, because of my car is older, then there is high chance that the wheel would break with high speed, yet instead of checking it, replacing it, just allowing this thinking, worry to escalate to distraction, to delusion.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that just because my car is one of the safest cars based on independent tests, believing that I am invincible and I would not be harmed if crashed, meanwhile not realizing that the reality is that any and all crashes, even with very low speed, like 40 km/h can be extremely and fatally dangerous, and also not realizing that although my car might be safe and strong, having a lot of airbags, yet who I would crash with, might have very weak and unsafe vehicle, thus I would cause injury or fatality, thus always consider safety and other cars as well.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to project delusional safety to cars based on stereotypes and statistics, while not realizing that any vehicle can have flaws, or structural integrity weaknesses due to age, previous crashes, or simply by not being lucky, as physics do not mess around, tons of metal is moving with very high torque and velocity, which can crush humans like a watermelon, thus:
- When and as I think that a car is safe, would protect passengers from crash and based on that to make decisions on how I should drive, how fast I should go – I realize that ANY and ALL crash can be extremely dangerous, lethal and tragic, thus it is my primary responsibility to avoid crash.
- When and as I am in an emergency situation wherein about to crash and not being able to avoid it, I remain calm, collected, present and taking breath fully while considering how much time I have to do anything or simply brace myself – to see if I can avoid crashing into another car, even if it means to damage or wreck my car as safety and life is more important than machine.
- When and as I worry that I can not react quickly within any given driving situation, I slow down, no matter what, even if it means that I will arrive to my destination late, or it would make me or my passengers more uncomfortable, period.
- When and as I would justify to speed with the risk of losing control of my car, meaning not being able to stop when anything happens and need to stop to avoid crash/accident, I simply take my foot away from the throttle without a thought, if needed, applying brake as well without any reaction, naturally.
- When and as I start driving, I make sure that breaks do work, testing it is my first responsibility when starting to drive as anything can happen with the brake system while the car is stationary, even if my car is a specific type which has under-protective plate, or even if the car was in a garage, or if the car is new, or if the car was just inspected recently – I only trust facts and real time check.
- When and as I am about to drive, I always assess my condition, mentally, emotionally, physically, my eyesight, my tiredness, my hydration, my feet and hands, my reaction-time, my reflexes, my ability to apply common sense and safety, to abide traffic rules, am I intoxicated, am I fully present and if any of those is not here with me, I do not drive, I refuse to drive, I commit myself to not drive until these conditions are met.
- When and as I do not trust the car I am about to drive or driving currently, having suspicion that it might not be reliable for safe and responsible driving, I do check it, I do stop, and if I can not make it truly reliable, I do not drive it, period.
- When and as I worry that I drive too closely to a car in front of me, it is because I am driving too closely, thus I slow down and create big enough distance so that when that car suddenly slows down, stops, I can surely avoid collision, even if it means I can not ‘make’ the other to go faster or move out of the way.
- When and as I want to show off to my passengers or people alongside the road or being in the traffic, I realize it is because I have insecurity and doubt and this will not really solve that, only could stimulate me into a temporally mind-state, where I feel good, inflated and powerful, but eventually it will fade and I will be more accustomed and get used to the habit to do it again as an expression of giving up on self-trust and self-honesty; therefore I take responsibility to trust myself and my commitment that all I need is responsible and safe driving.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blindly trust my car, just because it has proven to be safe, powerful and reliable for years, even if I make sure that any issue I always get fixed, even if always following my professional, proven mechanic’s advice, even if I face some challenging situation wherein I already have experience with overcoming it; I trust myself and facts only, as cars can deteriorate, situations can be different as they seem, I also can be influenced by mind-patterns or constructs, thus always to ensure safety and common sense.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to believe that my car’s tires will not get puncture, just because I always take care of the tires, buying the best quality, inspecting them regularly – as these products can still fail basically at any given moment, thus to realize – I only can trust in myself, here meaning – to do all I can within common sense to prevent failure and to remain present.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to abuse the car what I drive, meaning to push it to it’s limits constantly, to not consider engine and it’s oil not yet warmed up and pushing it, to drive it on roads what can damage it, to drive it to trappy offroad without consideration, even when the car is rental, or not mine or certainly I could get away with it – thus basically abusing it based on a mind-possession – without taking responsibility.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to get fond of a car too much, literally getting emotionally attached by the projected values, opportunities, freedom, value, prestige, price or anything I define it to be – so then making decisions not based on common sense and practicality but of emotional self-interest without realizing that I am accumulating consequences what I will certainly regret when looking back.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to give into peer pressure of surrounding society that how a car should be, what kind of it should be, what age it should be – as for instance in the country I live, any car older than 5 years is considered as very old and should be sold and believing that this is who I also should adjust to, just because of perceiving that others also do – and not simply applying practical common sense in relation to safety, financial and practical considerations.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not be honest with myself what freedom represents to me in relation to car and driving, which is the ability to any time ‘escape’ a situation by travelling away, to be able to just sit in and drive, or to be able to visit other places, go shopping without any hassle, to feel powerful while driving, to feel protected while sitting in it, to feel comfortable as having awesome seats and listening to great music while, to see great vistas and explore beautiful nature – and to realize – car is just a tool, self-definition is self-limitation and thus the way is to establish self-agreement and to live self-honesty without compromise in all moments equally.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to forget or disregard safety while driving through areas where people live, where houses are, where agriculture work is in progress, where animals are around/on the road, where road conditions are not optimal, and going faster than common sense dictates – instead of breathing and bringing myself here and to realize and manifest: safety first.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to miss my car when it is not with me, not in the vicinity of me, when I can’t sit into it and drive in any given moment, when I can’t just go anywhere I wish to be at; – thus feeling vulnerable and powerless, instead of realizing that car is a tool, anything I project onto it is self-definition and can become self-limitation which only I can forgive, stop and transcend.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to become narrow-minded and judgmental about any other cars what are not the same type or having at least same capabilities as my car, which can not go offroad, can’t go fast on highway, which is not as comfortable, safe as mine, which is not as reliable as mine, etc – and to develop a superiority by what ‘item’ I possess as basically it is that.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to get emotionally attached to my car so then projecting values to it what are in fact within me, of me, and not realize that as I acquired this sort of value, object, item in this world, I also can do it again if that’s what I really want; and when the time comes that spending on this car versus getting another, new one, so then I can remain reasonable and practical, considerate and logical about when it is time to get rid of it.
- I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to have a dislike, almost a despise towards cars what are not as powerful as I got accustomed to, because feeling like I can not express myself as freely with those, because they are not as comfortable, fast, safe or good looking and not realizing that it is self-limitation, as there is always place to apply common sense in practicality and based on that making decisions of when, what and how I should drive.
Ok, so this blog series is focusing on aspects of self-honesty and overcoming self-limitations, yet this video channel have provided me a lot of insights on how to approach driving more effectively and safely; basically a System of Car control:
And here to start with this:
I highly recommend to check out the other videos on this channel, IF:
- you are not entirely certain of how to drive safely
- you want to become better driver
- you want to be able to review and adjust your(self) during driving
- you want to just have more fun with more awareness during driving
This guy is an instructor for ambulance and police drivers, where it is crucial to be able to drive dynamically yet safely – It is a skill, what can be improved with study and practice and it is every driver’s responsibility to make sure they do not cause accidents or they can minimize harm when it is unavoidable.
At least once to watch the first videos already can help to understand his ‘System’, because it is definitely supporting to be more present and directive, I can guarantee. Of course, some do figure out and develop similar skills by themselves, but it’s quite alright if not, because there are great teachers out there.
I was doubtful and worrisome when started to drive and that’s why committed to keep actively learning, even after having license and being able to drive around normally.
Also there are specific courses, designed to help learn driving in extreme conditions, such as icy/snowy winter, where one can go and learn their own, and their car’s behavior, so then can make it as natural expression to get out of trouble when that occurs. Highly recommended.
On his website there is also a book available, haven’t read myself but seems very supportive.
So I write this last section, just to show, that self-forgiveness and understanding, process of SELF is essential, but that only unlocks the commitment and ability to LIVE those words.
Thanks – thanks;
take care, enjoy!